Saturday, September 18, 2010

Reasons why I should not be obsessed with a guy

  1. I have friends who need me (S, J, M, and J2 for example). I need to focus so that I will remember to check up on them.
  2. I have tons of reading to do. No time for depression over a guy.
  3. Who cares if I don't get him? There is no marriage in heaven anyway.
  4. My health is suffering from stress. And there is no way to control it right now because I'm not focused on the right things.
  5. I need time to have fun with other friends who will help me with relieving stress.
  6. Why be obsessed with a guy when I can be obsessed with God instead?
  7. I don't need a guy. Period. And I will be strong on my own. I owe this to myself. I need to respect myself and stop thinking about guy(s) because if I do I am just underestimating my own self-worth and independence. Vive les femmes! Remember, I am a feminist and I have a right to be alone, single, and proud of it.
And I post this video because it is the reason why I am writing all this!!!!!


A Story of Relaxation

Once upon a time there was a little princess who lived on top of a hill. She didn't live in a palace, only a cozy little cottage-like house made to fit roughly three people, comfortably. The cottage had a straw roof, square windows, and only one floor. It had beige walls, a fireplace inside, and housed the little princess, her parents, and the cat.

This little princess loved to sing and dance. Every morning, after breakfast, she would sing and dance down the hill full of grass, and pick flowers as she pranced along. Her cat would sometimes follow her-- it wasn't one of those lazy cats you see. The little princess would walk down the pathway from the bottom of the hill to the edge of the sea. She would sit on big rocks and breathe in the salty air.

The problem was, the little princess had no friends. You see, this area was beautiful, but empty. There were fields and fields of grass beyond the hill, and miles and miles of ocean on the other side. You probably couldn't find anyone unless you spent a day on horseback to travel to the next town. Since the little princess's parents fished and grew vegetables to sustain their family, there was no need for contact with other countryfolk.

You may ask, why would a king and queen act like farmers and not have any contact with country people? Wouldn't it be strange to rule over a kingdom of no one but your own family? Well. I never said the little princess's parents were king and queen, did I? No, I did not.

You see, this little princess is simply a princess because her parents viewed her as one. She was treated as precious and beautiful, adorable and noble. Of course, she was not spoiled! But she was very well loved.

As I said, this little princess had no friends. Basically, the cat was her best friend. But one day as she was dangling her feet into the ocean water, singing on top of a rock, a voice startled her.

"Hello," said the voice.

She turned around and saw a boy. She had never seen a boy before, but that was who it was. A curious little person with short hair and bony features. He was wearing a rugged T-shirt, and ragged jeans.

"Why, hello," answered the little princess. "Who are you?"

The boy did not answer, but sat down beside her. She stared at him curiously.

"Do you live around here?" asked the little princess.

After a moment of silence, the boy answered, "I'd like to." He picked up a stick and played around with it.

"Would you like to be my friend?" asked the little princess.

The boy smiled at her. "I'll try to come visit every now and then. But I cannot guarantee it."

"Oh, that would be wonderful! Can you please?"

The boy looked out into the ocean. They enjoyed the silence together.

Days passed. Some days, the boy would visit, and other days, he would not. But as time went on, he came less and less. And the little princess would miss him more and more.

One day, the little princess fell very ill and could not go out anymore. She spent weeks in bed, tired and sad. Sometimes she would dream that the little boy would knock on her door to visit. But the boy never came.

I don't know how this story ends. But hopefully it will end well. You probably are looking for a happy ending, but I cannot guarantee that. How about you tell me? What is the ending to this story? Will the little girl get well? Is the boy real? If he is, where did he come from and why is he so mysterious? What is the significance of this story? You tell me.

:)

Review of my School Goals (so far)

It was a couple days since I posted my goals. I want to check to see how well/poorly I am doing. Youpi.

1. Get 85% or above in every course.

I don't think I can know that yet. :P But I'm sort of catching up with reading... barely. Yesterday a box of books came from Amazon.com, and I realized how thick and dense some of these English books are. I think I should aim to read ahead, not simply "catch up" with readings.

2. Going to the gym 2x a week (no excuses, Martine! Dance and fitness!)

I went to the gym once. 20 min of running. I didn't go again because I wasn't feeling that great. But I ran a lot to and from buses!!! :P I guess I'll do some exercise after I finish writing and eating breakfast.

3. Taking my meds and eating/drinking properly.

I didn't take meds yesterday and my excuse was that I wasn't feeling well. How ironic. I also told myself that I don't care and I don't think they work anyway. Typical. I don't know how to reconcile this... But I've been eating and drinking so-so. Yesterday I said that I only ate one slice of pizza for dinner but then afterwards I decided to eat a proper dinner. YAY for health.

4. Don't stress out over little things/get easily angered

Still working on it.

5. Spending time with close friends every week

This week I spent time with May, Walter, Thuy, and Christine. Christine is such a moving speaker. I don't know if I regret or don't regret mentioning that I saw Jong near my church last Sunday cuz she went into a very moving and emotional speech telling me to forget about him and that he's moved on, why he treated me like the way he did before, etc. I kind of wanted to cry when she was telling me all that. I held it inside though, and cried the next morning. I think God is trying to help me get over ALL my exes (I wanted to say evil exes just to sound like Scott Pilgrim movie but no they were not evil) in like one month or something.

6. Spending quiet time with God every day (morning and night, preferably)

Doing pretty good with this one. Thank God! :)

7. When I feel lonely/depressed, immediately read the Bible and/or pray.

Not good. Sometimes I remember, sometimes I don't and get more depressed.

8. When I have free time, don't go on facebook. (Study or do something else productive)

The problem with this one is that when I'm lonely, I cannot study or do anything else productive. Then I use facebook as a means to cheer myself up cuz then I can learn about what's going on in other ppl's lives, talk to others, feel connected to others somehow. But it is definitely still not that great, cuz my readings will one day depress me if I don't do anything about it. And I lose track of what's very urgent, such as sending Steph Act One of the Christmas Play.

Facebook only used when I MUST contact someone through that means. If I want to share something, share on my blog cuz then it's less distracting.

As you can see, I probably spend WAY too much time on my blog. I just have so much to tell, and I love to write. This is what happens when you can't see your best friends very often.

9. Don't become workaholic.

I don't know, am I being workaholic this week? Probably not. But I might become one next week if I'm not careful.

10. Spend time with my son, Fuzzy. And write to my daughter in Uganda, Grace.

I haven't written to Grace yet because I need to find a good card to give her. But I should really speed that up. Fuzzy is doing well, been spending time with him. He's like a little grizzly bear now. HA. Not really, but he is pretty brown and furry. And getting bigger. He's running around behind me as I write this.

11. Walk slower. Try not to rush!

yeah... i only rushed when i was kind of getting late. But otherwise i think im slower now.

12. Save MONEY! No unnecessary snacks, esp. popcorn and chips. SPC Mastercard must only be used if I really need the item (e.g. pet food) and NOT for the sake of the deal. :P Remember, I owe OSAP roughly 20 000 dollars after this year is done.

I just received my second Mastercard in the mail. :O well, u gotta understand that... this Mastercard is a CASHBACK Mastercard so if i happen to keep using this one, instead of my other one, then eventually i will actually get some money back for free if i use this for essential items... yes... IF...

On a more serious note, I still had to buy extra food due to lack of energy and a bit of depression. But not that much.

13. When I feel unluckier than the number 13, count my blessings and just smile and thank God :D

I didn't feel unlucky. Just sad. I guess I should change this goal to when I feel sadder than the number 13.

Friday, September 17, 2010

Inspiring song that refocused my heart...



Surely children weren't made for the streets
And fathers were not made to leave
Surely this isn't how it should be
Let Your Kingdom come

Surely nations were not made for war
Or the broken meant to be ignored
Surely this just can't be what You saw
Let Your Kingdom come
Here in my heart

And I will live
To carry on compassion
To love a world that's broken
To be Your hands and feet
I will give
With the life that I've been given
And go beyond religion
To see your world be changed
By the power of Your name
Find More lyrics at www.sweetslyrics.com

Surely life wasn't made to regret
And the lost were not made to forget
Surely faith without action is dead
Let Your Kingdom come
Lord break this heart

Your name
Is a shelter for the hurting
Jesus Your name
Is a refuge for the weak
Only Your name
Can redeem the undeserving
Jesus Your name
Holds everything I need

Surely children weren't made for the streets
And fathers were not made to leave
Surely this isn't how it should be

Thank God tomorrow's Saturday (TGTS)

I should thank God that today is Friday but at the same time, I thank God even more for Saturday. Today is a bit of a crazy day. I mean, usually, Fridays are more chillax at the library here where I work, but until now it was craziness. Right now I have a breather.

First of all, it's the first week of school and everyone wants to know where the Registrar is, how to find books, how to find course reserves, how to get wireless internet, etc. And I am very happy to help them, it's just a bit hectic. Second of all, there was a fire drill today, and it was kind of epic in the sense that my supervisor said over the intercom

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(finished this post much later on at 9:20 ish because of busyness at library)

She said over the intercom in a very robot-in-movie voice: The library is now evacuating. Please exit through the front doors. And we see an epic sea of people making their way very obediently out the doors. WOW. Never seen so many people in the library on a Friday afternoon. Let alone an exodus of like 200 of them with my supervisor's powerful command.

I'm at home now, finished crying a bit (yes, I hold a lot inside, have to cry it out sometimes) and I plan to go to sleep early tonight. I don't feel like reading but I guess I will try to read the Bible and one horror story (yes it is required reading from a Fantasy Literature course) before I go to sleep. I feel kind of lonely and yes I know God is with me but I feel lonely for another reason... I don't really feel hungry even though I ate one slice of pizza for dinner. It's ok. Don't worry about me. :)

I can't wait till Women's Group and Discipleship Group starts at church. Then I can have something to fill my extra time? Or maybe this loneliness is inevitable. Maybe I have to endure this to remember to always look back to God for help.

Thursday, September 16, 2010

10 Ultimate Ways to Relax

I write this list for myself but maybe some of you will find it helpful too. Honestly, I have trouble relaxing.

  1. Breathe in slowly through your nose for 4 seconds (don't count too fast! regular seconds...), breathe out in the same way for 4 seconds. Try to extend it to 8 seconds each or longer. Takes concentration... and remember to relax! Don't tense up! (OMGOSH this is SO hard, I can only do 4 seconds right now cuz im SO STRESSED)
  2. Think of the funniest and kindest person/people in your life. Think about what they would say or do to make you laugh. Then laugh!
  3. Think of yourself as the craziest-funniest person in the world. Think about how you would overkill a karaoke song that's already cliche, a song like "I will always love you" by Whitney Houston and do some crazy weird actions to impress people with your funniness.
  4. Imagine all the things that annoy you or worry you are being put into a box, one by one (theoretically). Imagine yourself locking up the box, and putting the box out to sea to float away. It is floating far far away, and you are just sitting by the seashore enjoying the beautiful view. No need to worry anymore!
  5. Imagine you are holding a bunch of helium balloons with your favourite colours. As you are holding on, they slowly lift you up. You think this is so fun. All the weight that is on your shoulders drop down to the ground below you. You are floating and seeing all the beautiful places in the world you always wanted to see. Ah, how pretty and relaxing!
  6. Practice saying this tongue twister joke laughy thingy: Martine micked a meck of mickled meppers. How many mickled meppers did Martine mick? If Martine had a mozen mickled meppers, would she even moh mow many mickled meppers Martine mad micked? MO!
  7. Go on google Images and search "funny cute guinea pigs". Remember, don't change this wording. Otherwise you may see some gruesome guinea pigs :S ew.
  8. IMAGINE MARTINE STANDING ON TOP OF A MOUNTAIN AND SAYING "YODLE LE HEE HOOO!!!! [insert your name here] IS ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS AND I WANT THE WHOOOOLLLEE WORLD TO KNOW THAT!!!! YEAH, THAT'S RIGHT!"
  9. Go on youtube and listen to "Ave Maria". Close your eyes and imagine something divine. I like to imagine the Virgin Mary's face looking on me with care, even though I'm not Catholic, because this song was written about her and I see her as a role model in some ways... even though I'm not a technical virgin anymore but yes I am pure through Jesus Christ :)
  10. Exercise!!!! Stretching, dancing, swimming, singing, jogging... and remember to listen to music you like to accompany it! :D
YAY! I'm relaxed! At least for now :( at home it's inevitable that I will get stressed again 5 min after doing these 10 exercises. OH MY GOSH ARRRRGHHHGHGHHGHGHHG Here is some of my favourite music to try and relax again...



Stress causes health problems

Hello friends. Today I am feeling this awkward feeling that I hope you can pray for me about. This awkward feeling is caused by stress, and I don't even know what I am stressed about. I think living at home causes a state of almost constant stress for me, so when I'm at school the stress stays there and manifests in bodily functions. *sigh*

I feel tense and I try to relax but I cannot cuz I'm worried that I am tensing myself. It's like a vicious cycle. Nothing really helps right now. Cuz I'm basically sitting back in a comfortable computer lab chair just writing on this blog. I don't have any more classes to go to. I just have work at 4:30. So why am I stressed? I think I'm stressed because I am thinking about stress. Let me think about something else.

(one minute later) I can't think of anything to think about. But I got "Just the way you are" stuck in my head, except it's playing at a faster speed than normal. I actually don't like that song that much. It would have been ok if this song wasn't so superficial. I mean, if you take a look at the lyrics, this singer is not saying that he loves the girl just the way she is. He is saying that her looks are perfect just the way it is. Are looks everything? NO.

Yay. I'm on a rant. Or not. Today I washed my hair and my sister says it looks good but honestly, my bangs are getting long and falling on my face. I like to think of myself as a "female Eugene". You see.... :D hehehe there's this Christian cartoon video series called "The Odyssey". I used to watch it at church when I was little, before I was introduced to Veggie Tales (another series).

In the Odyssey there are three main characters (four if you count the dog). One is Mr. Whittaker, one is this boy Dylan (correct me if I got his name wrong), and one is Eugene. Eugene's a funny guy for the simple fact that his bangs cover his eyes, but he still wears glasses over his bangs. He looks like this:

http://www.odysseyscoop.com/images/interviews/img-eugene-computer.gif


And he is a very silly character. I think I like silly things :D as long as they are not the bad kind of silly that is like doing illegal stuff like jumping off an electric dam in the middle of a thunderstorm cuz you wanted to go fishing in the middle of the night. :D

So yeah. I think I look like a female Eugene sometimes hahhahaha

Laughing is a good medicine to get rid of stress :D

Another thing I like is big silly dogs with their tongues hanging out. The type of dog you saw in "Up" ...

http://www.shockya.com/news/wp-content/uploads/up_dog_poster5.jpg

Can someone teach me how to embed images??


It's ok. I figured it out :D hahahhahaha

I need to find ways of cheering myself up, you know, to loosen up and laugh. HAHAHA you know what I did on the bus today? The 38 bus was dead quiet. I wanted to sing but obviously it would be weird! Shouldn't all bus people be allowed to sing out loud, like a choir? It would be fun wouldn't it? Well... bcause I could not do that... this is what I did.

I invented a game. Do you know the game "Honey I love you will you please please smile?" Well basically it's a game where you sit in a circle and someone in the middle of the circle goes around asking that question. Ppl are supposed to keep a straight face, not laugh or smile. In fact, they are supposed to respond, "Honey, i love you but i just cant smile."

I don't like that game because it encourages flirting, especially if you play it at Teens Conference. Plus, last time we suggested it to those teens, they were like NOOOO ew we don't wanna play that game!!!! So I invented a new game!

It's called... "Honey, I hate you, will you please please smile?" I thought this was hilarious as I smiled to myself on the bus. And I'm kind of laughing out loud a bit as I type this in a dead quiet computer lab. ahhaha

Basically my game isn't supposed to make sense. That's what is supposed to make people laugh. The person in the middle will say that line, and then the ppl are supposed to respond "Honey, I hate you too. But I just can't smile" Don't u think this is hilarious? maybe not? ok. fine. At least it doesnt encourage flirting ok?

I think there should be another game EVERYONE should play. It's called "Make Martine Laugh". If everyone played this game, I would be cured from depression and I would have great abs. I swear! This game is fun too! Because when I laugh, it's contagious, you will laugh too! Then YOU will get great abs! Isn't that a good deal? AW come ON!

:D